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    Hi,
    Here are the 6 Parenting Hazards.

    1. Meaningless Threats
    When your unruly teenager pushes your buttons, do you often end up bursting with meaningless threats which are full of emotion but not realistic? If you’ve heard yourself using the line “It’s my way or the highway!” too many times, then you should try to restrain yourself. Making threats like these are normally counter productive.

    2. Exaggeration
    Again, when you are overcome with emotion it may be very easy to blow off steam and impose a penalty which is over the top. If you’ve heard yourself saying “You can’t date until your 21!” then you may be exaggerating your penalties. When you exaggerate your penalties, you in turn make it harder for yourself to follow through on imposing them. They may not be realistic enough to enforce or impossible to monitor. As much as you can, restrain yourself from exaggerating even when wrought with anger. But if you do make a mistake, then talk to your teenager when you’re feeling more placid and clarify the reason behind your exaggeration, after which you may explain an appropriate penalty.

    3. Being Fickle-minded
    How many times have you changed your mind on a penalty after your defiant teen pesters you about your ways of disciplining him? By wavering on your decisions, you are giving a chance for a power shift to occur from you to your child. If he notices that your mind can change, he will look for ways to keep the situation in his favor. You are demeaning your own authority by being fickle and your words may lose their weight or meaning.

    4. Lack of Monitoring
    If you leave your troubled teen to be after you specifically ask him to complete a task, you can expect that he may not do it. It’s important for you to monitor how your teenager responds to your authority. If you fail to do so, then you should not be so harsh as to penalize him for not accomplishing the task assigned. Help your teenager out by following through.

    5. Disarray within the parental unit
    You and your spouse are individuals that may each have your own parenting strategies. This may be a cause for confusion in your teenager though. Frequently, a defiant teen will look to the other parent when one denies his wants. If the other parent gives in to these wants, then you may experience ill feelings not just towards your child but towards your spouse as well. The strength of the parental unit and it’s authority over the child will crumble as both parents are busy dealing with the conflict that emerges between themselves. Your troubled teen will be left to man the front.

    6. Inconsistent Responses to Behavior
    If you catch yourself responding in a myriad of ways to a particular behavior, depending on your mood, then you may just be setting yourself up for disobedience on your child’s part. When they realize the inconsistency in your responses to their actions, they may just choose to ignore your rules or penalties.



  2. #2
    Hi,

    Nearly all of us undergo the era, when we never understand the way of parenting. Thanks for the suggestion.

    Keep on..........

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    Thanks for the insight hibikash.

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    hai good

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    Hi Hibikash,

    Thanks for the interesting insights. They're sure keep-in-minds. One more addition from my side. A big parenting hazard is done by most of us who are unaware of how easy it is, and that is not planning future expenses effectively for children. I have had many of my close friends do that and suffer later. We as responsible parents should be vigilant about future planning so that his expectations from us are met.



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