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    Question Is this alright?

    Hi people,

    I was bit confused of something one of friend told me. So am here to see if anyone can help me with their opinion. Am 26 and single. Well, the confusion is 'Is it abnormal if a gal does not have feelings to have sex at my age'.
    I am from a lovable family and brought up with values. About love, relationship- I did not fall in them because I breath my family and I know its not acceptable at home. I have never been in any relationship.
    Just recently one friend was surprised to hear from me that I never had sex anytime. They told me something is wrong if a gal at this age doesn't feel like having sex.
    I live in my fantasy at times and I feel completely normal. Of course, I fantasize a imaginary man with me but I don't exactly fantasize having sex.
    This is normal, rite?



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    You're perfectly alright...relax! Sometimes others make us feel that we are misfits, when the reality is it is them who are misfits. Just be proud of whoever and whatever you are. It's absolutely normal if you don't have fantasies or never had sex so far....many girls don't. Don't give yourself a reason...whatever the reason is, just know that the reason is strong enough for you (irrespective of what others say). I am not a so called 'good guy' and don't know if I qualify to provide any advise, however, I feel that you should accept yourself as a perfectly normal human being, and not let the thought of others decide the way you feel about yourself.

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    thats abnormal .. u wont get kids .. take doctor advise as soon as possible.

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    @born_s,.. Thanks. Yes am proud as I am and definitely another's thought cannot determine what I am. I was just confused trying to understand what made my friend comment so.


    @invisible,... its okay that u comment 'abnormal'. I came in here to have opinon from diffenent people.
    But wat makes you say 'u wont have kids'. sounds funny to me!! anyway its ur misconception

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    Thumbs up Low sex drive.

    In India we are raised notion of sex as a taboo. Love and relationships can discouraged sometimes. Weather in India is hot and polluted. There is lack of privacy wherever you go. All these reason does have a high mental impact on you. Since you never had a man in your life, you do not know what is love, what it feels like. Someone holding your hands and walking you through life. Someone bringing you sweet gifts and surprises, and in return you giving him kisses. So at this point i would encourage you to watch porn or some soft sensual movie and you can masturbate on your own. Masturbating is healthy and good for you. If you feel your sex drive is low may be do some cardio or gym. Being healthy definitely helps in sex drive. Goodluck stay healthy and happy.

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    Your friend(s) made the comment (an uneducated one) as she thinks that whatever they/she think(s) is the appropriate thing to think. That's her problem, not yours. Agreed, many girls have pre-marital sex and have a lot of sexual fantasies, and tend to think that that is the right (or normal) thing to do (and they may be correct in their stand). However, if you think otherwise, there's no reason single you out as abnormal. Both of you are normal in your own ways...just don't care a lot about what others think or say about you.

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    Don't panic.

    Hello there. I am truly getting your point. So my advice is just relax. You're normal as ever. It's just that you were brought up with good values in your heart and proper guidance by your parents. Maybe you never had this chance to entertain the thoughts of sexual intercourse. But, don't worry. It all takes time. Just wait for the right guy, right moment.



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