Your husband seems to be angry, I mean very angry. You must calm him down. Please do a lot of talking to him. Do not ask him about things which would make him angry. Talk about something which he likes. You must change yourself to change him. Trust your husband and console his misery. May God help you.

Regards

I am no expert in marriage counseling but having got married recently myself, I can understand how it must be for you to feel lonely, even when you have a husband to care for now. You seem to want him back at any cost…I mean at any cost. Did you ask yourself why? Pardon me if I am coming across as rude, but to me he seems like a self-centered man. I mean, how can he just sleep over without letting a wife know about his whereabouts? I do hope and pray that he didn’t physically hurt you.

Now, your question as to how to bring him back…I am reminded of an old proverb, you can help the horse get to the river but you cannot force him to drink. Let go for now. Do not attempt to bring him back. More than likely he just needs some space for himself. When he is done being alone, he will sure come to you. Until then be patient. I know it is very difficult but you requesting/nagging him constantly will only make things worst. Give him time. He will come back. But when he does come back, please do consider setting a few terms so that you are not treated this way again. Surely you deserve more respect for all the love you are showering.

If you are sure that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, then maybe you should attempt seriously having a proper talk with him. You don’t want to be staying in a relationship which can potentially get abusive, physically and emotionally. To avoid that happening, explain to him what your terms are also. So far you had been patiently agreeing to his every whim and fancy (or so it seems like) but can you continue this forever? I am not too sure if you have children yet, but if his behavior towards your marriage and you continues this way, think how long you will remain sane.

All the best…I hope things work out for you.

hi Rakhii nd indianguy
First of all thank u so much for answering my call... I will definitely take ur advice... nd u r right he needs some time nd space... we don't have kids yet...but i'm sure very soon we will...  I don't knw if i'm right or wrong but no matter wat, I want to spend the rest of my life wit him.. he is my first love nd will always remain so.. i don't want my first love to be a failure... yes ofcourse he has to control his temper coz it really hurts me a lot when he uses abusive language... nd yes there were time when he even physically abused me but luckily it didn't go tat serious... i'm sure my love will change him some day ... may be not now but one day it definitely will change him... all i need is blessings nd support 4m frnds like u... nd i'm sure i'll win him back... once again thank u so much to let me knw tat i have u to support me... have a nice day...