Hi,
I'm a 22 year old girl born and brought up in the US, I have been to India many times but never lived there. My dad is from a small family and comes from a lower economic background in Mumbai, but moved here about 30 years ago. I am engaged to a 26 year old man living in kolkata, I love him very very much and just can't wait for this long distance we have to be over (haven't seen him in almost a year now...).

My problem is this: his family is from a very well-off background and the whole extended family is like this- I am very very very nervous for what they might think of my family when the wedding comes around. I don't want to ask my parents for a huge indian wedding because the times are hard economically, but I know that his family expects it.

I don't want my parents to feel anything less, and I've brought this up subtly to my fiancee- he always reassures me that no one will think anything and that even if they do who cares it doesn't matter but I'm still scared...I know that all my relatives in Mumbai that are my family and that I love dearly will look a little different than his relatives and I don't want anyone to fee greater or lesser..

Any suggestions? I know I can't really change the circumstances but I guess my mindset has to change somehow?
I love him so much I would just prefer to have a small wedding somehow and the focus just on us two and our love for each other, but obviously that's not how indian weddings work...

Please help!
Thank you