> myspace wrote:

> hy,my name is lomeshwari. main ek shadi shuda ladki hu.main ek school me naukri karti hu aur mere husband chemical engineer hai. mera problem meri saas hai jo muze tang karti hai jaise ki use har waqt apna husband apne sath lagta hai aur agar hum dono kahi ghumane nikale to use jalan hoti hai.wo hame sath janehi nahi deti har bar perfect planning karke hamari planning chaupat karti hai. mere pati ko har saturday chutti hoti hai, agar hum shyam ko kahi bahar jane ki tayari karte hai to hamse pahle wo hi mere sasur ke sath chali jati hai.muze gussa to bahot aata hai par bol nahi sakti kyonki mere husband kahte hai ki use ignore karo. par har bar aise kar pana kitne muskil hai.wo muze kam mai bhi help nahi karti.kya karu?

I think Ur sashu maa is iliterate or she loves ur hubby too much nd she is feeling u r taking her son away frm her...
Just do 1 thing wen a child s born to u dont allow ur in-law to b wid ur child too much just to point out her mistake...

Little Jack and Ruhita and all,

On this I wanted to tell you a real story which My family and our neighbors are suffering from right now and we even start crying on that thing as it is very difficult for us to digest.

One of my neighbors is a very calm and sweet lady; We call her Dadi coz she is very good to all of the children and our parents too..
She had 2 sons and 3 daughters.. Of which the 3 daughters are married and living a very good life in thr families with thr In-laws. They have so much good etiquettes and respect to elders that everyone in thr In-laws always praise them and dadi too much to gv them so much manners.

Her 2 sons, Elder is V____ and younger is A___. (Don't want to gv thr real names here.)

His elder son V____ got married and bcoz of the DIL and her parents demand he has to leave his mother and now living in another city(Just 50-60 KM from our place) with his wife. She never complained to anyone. Her elder DIL decided to not have any child upto 10-15 yrs of marriage bcoz of her career and she never said a word.

Then came the second DIL; Wife of A___. She is the younger sister of A___'s Best Friend and its thr Love Marriage. They have 2 daughters; one is 12 and other is 9 yrs of age right now.
Dadi never said a word for any misbehave this DIL did with her. Dadi, A___ and this DIL lived together. Dadi was a school teacher but b4 going to school she had to cook by herself. She took care of all the household and the two children but the DIL always took care of the latest fashion. Sometimes she also used to take me and my sister to her fashion stores also.

She always wore latest and new design wears in front of the elders and male members in the family even if they are very much revealing. Dadi was so much annoyed by this but thought that her DIL will get hurt so she never told her and even 1-2 times she told her and got a harsh reply.. So she used to talk to my mother about what is in her heart. Now the most annoying thing started happening. She started to give thr daughters too to wear these type of revealing clothes from thr childhood.
She never used to take care of the finances but always involved in partying and fashions.

Now due to financial problems she started to work somewhr and got involved with her friends at work so much that she started staying at her friends house for doing late night parties.
A___ also accompanied her always thinking that if he said No then she will get angry and accuse his mother for this.
But this culture influenced her so much that once 2 days she didn't came back from her office and when they inquired they came to know that she left the place and went to some other city and took a house for rent and living thr and doing job thr only...

When everyone asked what happened she told that Dadi i.e. her MIL harrassed her and everytime not allowing her to do whatever she wants in the house.
She wanted freedom from everything and told everyone that its her MIL's fault and her tortures that she did this. She told A___ that you can come here with both the daughters and we will live happily but I don't want to go back to that house with MIL.



You all tell me what A___ would have done in such a condition.

1. For the sake of his children should he go to her leaving his mother alone..
OR
2. should he stay with his Mother and gv the children to her..
OR
3. would He keep the children with him and stay with his Mother..

Waiting for the answers..