thanks a lot Ruhita..u r absolutely right..she had lots of options and vacancies...infact she used to talk to me on one of her spats with her closest friends..tat guy ditched her in friendship and she was feeling lonely and said that talking to me brought happiness in her...she had lot other friends in guys around her...after i proposed her saying that "i was a lonely guy" she wantedly updated in her orkut saying that "she is too bubbly to be a loner and too crowded to be a recluse"....there were days were she used to say i was the only guy to whom she was talking to in tis world as people around have ditched her...she had a boyfriend with whom she had a problem due to various reasons...inspite of it that guy seems to remain her best friend till now..once when i called her she cut my call saying that she was busy talking to some one...next day when i asked about it, she said that she was talking to that guy and hence cudnt talk to me..then for the next 4 days i got held up with my projects that i cudnt talk to her...she suddenly called me saying that she missed me these 4 days and it was as if she hadnt talked to me for 20 years..she even said that she cut that guy's call and she was talking to me...these things happened before i proposed her...why i am saying all tis is whatever you said, perfectly happened in my life...she knew tat i never had any options and vacancies..she knew that she was the only girl in my life and found that comfort zone in me...but once i opened up she just disclosed her other side...ofcourse she shud not have done tis to me...leaning on me as a friend and when i said my love just leaving me and going was the biggest act of selfishness...but i liked her ruhita..she might have done a mistake but it was me who proposed her and got backfired...tat pain had to be there with me for a period of time...bcoz it was affection...ofcourse i have been coming out of it slowly with the same thought process you expected me to have...she left me bcoz she is sorrounded with options...she mite have a thousand but she was the one i loved...and i m also aware that she was the one who hurt me....it did take some time ruhita...even now it pains but the intensity of the hurt is reducing slowly...bcoz when i proposed she left saying a goodbye..i tried on all fronts to catch up with her..she never responded..i killed my ego and talked to a person whom i never knew all for one reason that he was her friend..he too replied supporting her but said that he will talk to her about tis..but then when i mailed him wat happened, just like her he never replied for my message ...she mite have told him to keep silence like her and he simply followed that..it was really hurting those days ruhita...but now i am getting back to my senses and hope i get back with complete fresheness...thanks a lot ruhita...

thanks a lot rajeev...what you said was absolutely true...i did learn a lesson...but the hard way...but tats fine...thankz again...

yeah ruhita...but i just proposed her once...i never proposed her again and again...after proposing her, rest of my attempts were just to bring her back and make her talk to me as she was before..i tried convincing her through scraps saying that i just wanted her to accept me back as i was before and i m ready to be the way she wants me to be...bcos when a person says his love, whether its accepted or not, he just doesn't want to loose her forever...rite?...but now i feel that even those attempts of trying to convince her was also something stupid...bcoz as u said she should feel like forgiving and talking to me...i just cant try convincing her after telling those three words...after that the more i tried to convince her, i think the more worser she should have felt about me...tis is something were neither i can blame her nor can i keep on kicking myself...tis was something very complex were i had to  learn the hard way...

one thing will always remain unanswered ruhita...the way she was before the moment i proposed and the way she reacted after the moment i proposed was something that i could never relate to..she rejecting my proposal was something i always expected to happen but she leaving me and going was something i coudnt come in terms with for some days after that...but now i m able to get a clear picture of how it was all meant to be....i liked her...i did love her...she liked me...but i don think she loved me...anyhow m getting ahead and as u said i will move forward....

Hi
You didn't make any mistake, just forget her ,

It's not only a man's duty to love his lover, but also a woman's duty to love him back.
Accept the fact . Winning and losing is related to business, but life is different...........

> Ruhita wrote:

> Hi
You didn't make any mistake, just forget her ,

It's not only a man's duty to love his lover, but also a woman's duty to love him back.
Accept the fact . Winning and losing is related to business, but life is different...........
hi ruhita tum to yaar sab ki problem solve kar deti ho you are really very sweet

Hi vikram ,
I read ur complete story...it was realy herting but ultimatly this happened  to u and  olny u ca feel the pain no one else  I can understad only ecause I faced the same once.....vikram u know wat is the problem with the boys we do't think from mind we think straight from heart when anything such happen we want only the one who can be only our and can understand the feelings of us ..but opposite this there is a virity of gals who takes the advantage of the feeling and geerally brok our hearts like anything....understand one thing r u like those guy who slips over any one beautiful..no u r not ...u r stronger not strongest.....once sombody told me when “I was in ur situation.....love the prson who loves u and store this love. to her”....live with masti and 1 kot I remember “ khudi ko kar buland itna ki khuda be bade se aake khud puche bata teri raza kya hai” so try to forgot the past I know it is realy difficult ut u have to do  and be stronger ...may be u get other for ur luv.........i am sure you will be the happiest family on this earth when you will improve this guts ..