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#1 23-11-2009 03:48:12

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Break up

Hi ,

we had been in love since 7 months. since 2 months we are not on talking terms. my girlfriend is angry and want to break up as i hurt her twice by doubting her. the main problem is we both have ego problem. she says that she cant patch up with me as i pointed at her character. but still i love her a lot and want her to come back in my life.

during this 2 months she sometimes sends messages and emails. i am confused is this a way to keep in contact with me.or any other reason.




pls advise.

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#2 23-11-2009 03:56:46

SwetaS, Bangalore, India
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Re: Break up

Hi shan,

Only useful advice from me is talk to her and ask her what she is doing by msging u or mailing u...

But the fact is she will not talk nicely coz no girl like that her BF or Husband in any case doubt her and it is very offensive for a girl if a question arises on her character...

Try to find out from ur inside why u did this and then reason within urself that was that right or wrong...
If right then why she did that to u and so leave thinking about her and tell her not to mail or msg u anymore...
If you were wrong then what is the probability that u will not do that again in future..??

Try out these self asking things and then tell us the whole thing we will help u out...


THE RACE IS NOT OVER B’COZ I HAVE NOT WON YET….!!!
Regards
Sweta Shrivastava

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#3 23-11-2009 04:29:56

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

i know i commited a blunder by doubting her. an di am repenting since 2  months..

how can i convince her that i wont repeat it agian..

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#4 23-11-2009 04:33:32

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

she is not picking my call at all. she soemtimes sends me emotional mesages to remind me that i did a big mistake...

she also says that she cant patch up with me.

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#5 23-11-2009 04:45:57

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

after our break up when i tried to convince her , she gave me a strange option to wait for 2 yrs and then speak to her parents. but during these 2 years she wont speak to me. out of option i agreed. but i could not wait beyond 2 months as i felt the 2 yrs option to be not practical. i tried a lot by speaking to her friends, but she is in no mood to listen. i am not able to understand one thing how can  a girl who loved me so much , who cant live without talkign to me for 1 hour and cant live seeing me for 1 day spent 2 months with out seeing me, talking to me as i commited a big mistake.

out of irritation i asked her out does she loves me ? she messeaged me that she doesnt love me any more. i asked her out
waht about after 2 years.
she says she doesnt want to sacrifice her life for me by marrying me......

i am not sure whether she will wish me on my birthday which is next month..

one question why is she mesaging me emotional messages, phrases if she doesnt want to continue ..

pls answer..\\

i know my mistake , i dont want tlose her at all...

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#6 23-11-2009 05:02:00

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

by messaging is she trying to tell me that she still misses me.....

i am not able to read her mind at all..

what are the chances for her coming back to me..

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#7 23-11-2009 05:11:25

priya tk, bombay, India
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Re: Break up

@ shan....

my post may sound harsh bt i think this is wt could be done.....

probably she does miss u....y dont u go for a open talk with her face to face..u can still do since she is still msging u....u can talk n solve it...tell her tht u r genuinly sory for doubting her n wont do it again.....tht wud make things much clear when u can read her expressions..

gud luck...

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#8 23-11-2009 05:26:40

priya tk, bombay, India
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Re: Break up

tht is a suggestion since u said "i know my mistake , i dont want tlose her at all..."

if u really r sory then go make up...

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#9 23-11-2009 05:29:33

SwetaS, Bangalore, India
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Re: Break up

Shan,

You are doing a mistake...

A story which is made for you I think...
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

A college boy loved a classmate girl for 2 yrs and in that time he asked her several times that whether she loved him or not..
She everytime said "I don't love u coz u are not my types"

After the college he totally forgot about that girl and some-days afterward when all frnds met they asked how can u forget the Love of you life...
He simply replied "When she said NO I thought of giving a try may be she will love me after sometime but when finally she said NO I was happy coz She lost the one who Loved her unconditionally and I lost the one who never loved me at all"
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

If you understood what I wanted to say then go ahead with your life and don't make a mess out of it...
If she loved u then she would have came to u by now coz Boys are very patient but girls are not at all patient in terms of LOVE and Relationships...
If she loved u she would have came and told u that she can't live without u...

2 yrs is just a way to make u understand that she is not going to be urs forever even if you wait 2000 yrs...

You are repenting what you did but I say u did right as she is like that and when she came to know that u will not be fooled by her ways and one or the other day everything will be clear in front of you she became aggressive and left...


THE RACE IS NOT OVER B’COZ I HAVE NOT WON YET….!!!
Regards
Sweta Shrivastava

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#10 23-11-2009 05:46:15

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

you asking me to go for open talk , i have tried a number of times asking her to sit and talk , she is not agreeing.

what if she messages me again, what should i do.....

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#11 23-11-2009 05:49:45

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

y did she say to wait fro 2 years . was it a excuse....

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#12 23-11-2009 05:52:19

priya tk, bombay, India
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Re: Break up

then..probably...u shud ask her y she is msgsg,if she doesnt answer or turns to other topics then tht is it.... ask her to stop mssgng n u shud strictly move on....

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#13 23-11-2009 06:23:02

sweetsanjay25, Chennai/Bangalore, India
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Re: Break up

Hello Shan,

I dont have much to add as Priya and Sweta have already responded well.

You dont keep chasing the girl and show that you are too desparate.  Stop messaging and all contact with her, but before you do that just drop her a mail or a few words like the below.

I never meant to hurt you
the way I know I have.
Your love means more to me
than anything and I'll do whatever it takes
to prove that to you.

Since the day I met you and
your love touched my heart
I knew that my life would never be the same.

Please forgive me for the pain I've caused.
I'll make it up to you every chance I get.
You have my heart and my love forever.

Conclude it with the line that " if you still care and love me, please respond to my message and get in touch with me, or else I wish to say Good bye and wish you the best in life, but I would keep thinking of you and our relationship for the rest of our life.

Love always

Yours ...............


Cheers, Sanjay


> shan30 wrote:

> you asking me to go for open talk , i have tried a number of times asking her to sit and talk , she is not agreeing.

what if she messages me again, what should i do.....


You are Clever when you believe only half of what you hear, but you are brilliant when you know which half to believe.

Sanju

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#14 23-11-2009 06:27:15

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

I have decided not to message her or contact her for 10 days and see her response.. meanwhile my birthday is on Dec 2. 

this would be the last try from my end...

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#15 24-11-2009 06:55:03

shan30, hyderabad, India
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Re: Break up

Hi,

I show damn care attitude towards her for some time, would she become curious about me ....what wrong with me , as i dint contact her for long time..

i read it in a article that after break up if the guy happens to ignore her to regain her attention .

will it work for me guys..

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#16 25-11-2009 00:56:30

SwetaS, Bangalore, India
Senior Member

Re: Break up

Shan,

You are making "Rai ka pahaad"...

Why are u so much concerned about her when she don't love u..
Everything makes it clear that she is not going to forgive u and she hates u... But u are not getting a simple thing...

Sorry that I am being rude to u but when someone is not getting the reality then we have to show him this way...

Leave thinking about her and stop reading those bullshit articles...
Or otherwise if you don't want to listen what we say then don't ask us...


THE RACE IS NOT OVER B’COZ I HAVE NOT WON YET….!!!
Regards
Sweta Shrivastava

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